DBing while in MC

[john28]

PH, you can use this separation to your and your W's advantage.

Just because you've asked her to leave DOESN'T mean you don't still go to MC. You can still do that.

I would suggest drawing up a controlled separation agreement with her. I've been thinking about that. It allows each person to focus on themselves without having to worry about what the other is doing. It sets clear expectations and boundaries.

This allows you to still LEAD the R. It allows you to let her focus on yourself and let her focus on herself. It doesn't shut the door to reconciliation, but it does put some boundaries in place.

I would suggest "Should I stay or should i go?"
http://www.amazon.com/Should-Stay-Go-Controlled-Separation/dp/0809225131/ref=pd_bxgy_b_img_a

You should read up on it and get some advice from others if this is a good idea or not. I'm not trying to read your mind, but from what you've said here you want a healthy loving M. By her feelings last night she is devastated and also wants a healthy loving M. You guys can't get that living under the same roof now.