For crying out loud. I always think of one more thing later
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He's scared. He had no idea how bad she hurt.
That is from smartcookie's post. Why do you think he did not know she hurt like that? Why is it that resonates with you? Why would it be such a mystery to him that you are hurting like that, and why do you take responsibility for how the kids should be raised and he is wrong? Again, I'm not claiming that what he did was right. I can't see it and cannot judge it at this point. I have not walked in your shoes. But is it right that it is a surprise? Is it right that you would try to control the way he interacts with the kids? That sounds controlling and I would guess that at some level he would resist that perhaps without even knowing why. Does everyone assume that men just don't have feelings and that women are the only one's that are right when it comes to raising kids? I can see the control of a woman in raising the kids becoming a power struggle at some deep subconscious level. I can see that the controlling behavior would prevent him from really connecting to his children, that he likely loves very deeply.
Last question: is your relationship so focused on just the kids that maybe you lost sight of the partnership in favor of making your viewpoint the only one that matters when it concerns the kids? I don't for a second discount your hurt, but it was it really him that caused the hurt? Alone?
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
