I am wondering if no contact is going to push my husband further away since I was talking to him alot and spending time with him inspite of the OW.
Tay Tay,
When you did that, you were allowing him to get some of his emotional and physical needs met by the OW, and then some of them met by you. He didn't have to make any choices.
By going no-contact, you have removed that as an option, and forced him to choose one of the two remaining options:
1. Continue his affair, and destroy his family; or
2. Return to his marriage and work on reconciliation.
As long as you were allowing him to "cake-eat," why on Earth would he ever make a decision? He had the best of both worlds.
