I agree with Lotus, but again John, we are talking about less than 24 hours, the NC needs to go longer than that, you need to go dimmer as Th tells me, I too turn to moosh with my kids, but I dont show it to the W. I dont show it to them, I am stable in front of them and they see strength in their daddy, not an emotional mess. Not saying you are, but my 5 year old is the one noticing more of what is happening. If you and the W can be stable in front of him, then he will do better. In my opinion this is not happening with him, whatever you do do not treat your S as a tool or a pawn in this game, it will leave scars that dont go away. You can do this, you are learning but you need to stay on TRACK!!!!!
Be kind but not a doormat, be someshat available but not in her grip. this is the way to get to where you need to be.
