Long time no talk. It's been a while since I posted. I'm not even sure if my old thread "time for me to fly" is accessible any more. Nevertheless, it's time for a new thread at some point, in piecing.
I hope you don't mind me stealing a chunk of your thread, but I needed to express myself here on this BB without a new public thread and I didn't think you would mind.
You see dear, my WAW decided 2 days ago (3 days before our court mediation date), that she wanted to call the whole D off. This came on the heels of a week long trip to London England I took for work, AND, a 2 month binge of staying out very late (like every night of the week) and dating some of the most beatiful women I had ever laid eyes on.
Now the point of the dating was not even to save my M, I truly thought it was over and I was moving on. I know we talked about the dating thing and the pros and cons, and I certainly understand the complications involved; however, I do think that combined with moving on, acting as if, and completely and totally detaching really made the difference.
Only one small problem. Now that my W wants back, I am not so sure. I have definately become the WA in a MLC with another very good friend that I will need to break off with as we move forward to piecing.
So why am I writing you all this? Not sure, but I knonw i have to talk about it somewhere. The D case has been dropped, and right now we have decided to do the "wait and see" thing we spoke of months ago. Only this time it will be without the D hanging over our heads.
The thing is I dont wan't anything to do with our old R. Since moving on I have become such a different person with the help of both DB and my new hobby of hypnosis and seduction. So how does one bury an old 15 yr R and start a totally new one as Michelle suggests is possible? Also how does one put an end to a very good friendship with OW that has entered the picture?
Perhaps some WA's can help me as the tables have been turned around a bit. I was starting to look forward to a single lifestyle, and then I get a different sort of bomb dropped "she wants to stop the D". Instead of being thrilled like I would have bee 4 months ago, I was a bit dissappointed. Is this normal, or am I crazy and confused by the by product of dating? how do I sort this out and be able to use it to help others?
Anyways, thanks for letting me hog your thread for a while Sage. i do susspect I will start a new thread here in pcg. once I get my thoughts straight, and we decide what kind of R we want. Several things have been discussed like actualoly working on the M, Not working on the M and just living together married separated, to actually having other R's. Sounds crazy, but I do think we both want fufilling r's w/each other. It may just take some time to see, once all the dust settles and any other issues and R's are diffussed.
