Thanks GolfGirl, I appreciate the input. You echo some of my reservations about ADs. I also have my doubts about some of the "new agey" stuff, but I'm open minded enough to do some homework, as long as I don't wind up chanting in a crystal pyramid wearing a tin foil hat. I believe you're right about my extra-marital field trip. I think some of my work outs are about looking and feeling viable. I'm not sure I received that from my W, but I definitely feel as though its important now. When lacking in self confidence, I think being a smarta** and looking like you don't want to be messed with is a good ploy - or I used to feel that way. Nasty lessons learned in high school.
M / W: 43 D8 S6 M 10 years / T 13 years W admitted EA/PA: 10.6.09 Separated in same house 10.6.09 W moved out 2.27.10