Later W calls me at home and says she needs to get cupcake cookbook and cupcake tin from house. I say sure I'll leave it
Continuing to enable the Betty Crocker in her!
I have been reading along. You seem to understand the recipe you just can't mix the ingredients together with the correct consistency. I don't see you being in either the "gay friend zone" (DEE-DEE dee-dee DEE-DEE dee-dee . . . ) or in last resort technique. More so, you are a wayward with a codependent wife. A recipe for disaster. The question should be: how do break this cycle of fattening treats? With apple wedges, celery sticks and peanut butter, cottage cheese?
Just something new and healthy.
Do you notice, from your first post:
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April 23. I did the common begging/pleading/promising/pursuing to change/crying/etc. mistakes throughout May
that you are still doing this? Again, realize, it is time for something healthy and new.
People like to say, it is hard to get back what you lost; but truth is you never really do. People like to say, I don't want the old marriage back; I want a new and better marriage with my wife. That is a crock of goulash. If you notice so many men that write that are the same men that still beg and plead and analyze every word and act out in passive/aggressive behaviors when they do not get what they want in the time frame they decide upon. Its just a different Act in the Play (if you notice their behavior is not much different than the descriptions for the reasons their wives gave up on them in the first place) not new actors or a different Play.
They find themselves in a perpetual cycle of Betty Crockerisms.
The key, and especially in your case, is to allow your wife to find herself. She is begging for it but you give her so many reasons to return to the cook book, frustrated, and try to come up with a new and different way to bake it.
You sought and found yourself. Maybe it wasn't the best man you taught you could be, or the man your wife wanted to be married to, but you took the time to explore who you are. Does your wife not deserve the same opportunity?
