Pinhead, what your W is saying is approximately the same thing that mine said shortly after bomb date when she was "working" on things in the M and R for 2 months. She wasn't really working. She was existing. She was buying time to plan an exit strategy. She didn't know it. I didn't know it. But ultimately she was buying time because she was scared of me, what I'd do if she left, and what she would do if she left.

Fear is a more powerful emotion than love.

Your wife fears you more than she loves you right now. Fear is killing her attraction to you.

Only letting her go will let her see she has nothing to be afraid of.

How you do that is up to you. I'm not an expert on that by any means.

----"Et tu, Brute?"----
me:28 W:24 S4
T:6
M:4
EA Exposed: 5/21/10
Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day)
NC w/ OM: 7/10/10
W moved out 8/21/10
http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch