What am I supposed to do???

[Tay Tay]

Thank you for the encouragement. I am on to Day 5 of no contact. It is hard but I do feel like it is getting easier. If he is not calling me that means that he does not want to talk to me. So why would I want to talk to someone that does not want to talk to me or the kids anyway.

This is what I'm trying to remember to maintain my NC. He's not calling me, he's not calling to talk to D, so why would I want to just pick up the phone and chat with him?

Why do you think it is that they don't call? It is killing me not to call him. I think one of the reasons that it is irritating me so bad is because I talked to the OW on August 20th. I told her everything that there was to tell. My husband got so upset with me and I have never seen him that upset. He told me that he wanted nothing else to do with me. He was coming over every Saturday or Sunday for the six months that we have been seperated. Since I talked to the OW he has not come over. It has been 2 weeks and the kids are feeling it.

Ris may be right, he may still be steaming. I don't remember which thread I read it on or who exactly said it (maybe Puppy). A's are an addiction, WAS will do whatever they can to feed that relationship (something like that, forgive me if I've got it wrong). Oh course, we can't mind read . . . but maybe. It kills me too that H won't call to even check on D, but whatever, it's his choice, his mistake, his loss. Since busting him out on his lies I just really have no desire to cater to him anymore unless he can make a firm commitment to his family, this family. Of course, my feeling are still fresh on this since I just exposed and confronted him about the lies a few days ago.

I agree with all of you as well he may still be mad about being exposed. I wish things could be easier but that wouldn't be as fun would it (just joking). I have gotten over the urge to call him so I thank you all for getting me through today.