Had another IC session. I am rapidly running out of things to learn there thanks to this site.
IC found it remarkable how I have understood my past failures and how I am raising above the rock bottom I hit.
This session was all about me and rather than self pity and beating myself into pulp, I explained how my own set boundaries choked the life out of my R. I fooled myself into changing 7 years ago when I had similar crisis. Instead of loosening the boundaries, I found convenient loopholes and camouflaged my own insecurities into brand new package that I tried to sell my W.
She finally figured it out and the result of it is that I never fixed the problem and while failing to do that I turned myself into completely unattractive person to her.
I really did not need to pay $$$ to tell IC that but it's only money. It bought me a compliment. IC said that I have shown remarkable strength and understanding of the issue and most wives in my situation do not have the luxury of having a H who really knows what needs to be done.
