So much for keeping things pleasant. As I am leaving a meeting, she sends a text that said: why do you keep changing your mind without giving me any warnings. I did not respond, I waited until I got in my car and called.
She started to give me crap about the fact I keep asking her to get the rest of her stuff and that I promised to move it all for her. I said negative, I told you I would move what I could a week ago, and then I ran out of room in the uhaul and that you would need to get the rest of it. She then started to go into the fact I have been going out and stuff, and asked if I was drinking beer again? I said yes, I told her as much as you want to believe I am an alcoholic, 2 doctors and a therapist said I am not. I told her if i want to drink a few beers out with friends it is my choice. I then said W we are getting a divorce, I do not need to check in with you and get your approval on everything I do.
She then started to say I do not respect her in the fact that she says I say I will do something and not finish. This is where she tries to turn things around and lay guilt. I said you have had plenty of time to get your stuff, I went out of my way to help and could not get everything. I then went in to her registering our S and renting a house without talking to me about it, I said that is very disrespectful and this conversation is over. She then said you get defensive when you lie, I said I am tired of your crap, and I will not be bullied.
I ended the conversation and said I will meet you at X and get the kids, she started to retract and speak softly and said bye.
I was 20 mins late getting the kids and she started lighting me up again via text as I was pulling into X. I did not give her the time of day nor did I respond to her bs texts. I grabbed the kids hugging them and tickling them shut her car door and got in my truck.
After about 2 hours I dropped the kids at daycare and sent her a text that said: kids are at daycare. She then sends a text thank you, enjoy your evening. I returned a U 2.
10 mins later she calls, I answer and she says hi, I say the same and she apologized to me for snapping at me, I accepted her apology and we made small talk for a few more minutes. She said our S is really having a tough time with this, and I said I need to see the kids more often and that I wll spend some time with them tomorrow. I had another call coming in and told W I have to take this call I will talk to you tomorrow. SHe said ok.
What is going on with this woman?
She invites me to dinner 2 times she mentions me renting a house in the same neighborhood she moved to. She actually apologized for the first time in a long time She says she still cares about me and wants me to safe When I go dark for more than a day she starts contacting me We have a good pleasant day of conversation then she turns into I am woman hear me roar!!!!
I feel like my W is turning into my mother!!!! Is she trying to still control and mainpulate me while we are near the big D? Sometimes I feel she hasnt totally let go of me, as my C said she will start to miss the adult interaction with me after a while, but at the same time as i have said before i will not be my XW BFF.
Any input? any of you ladies out there who might know what the hell I am dealing with here?
