Prepare for a wonderful discovery

[ChristineE]

Sage,

I wanted to thank you for coming over to my thread to lend some thoughts. It is greatfully appreciated!

Boy, it sounds as if you have a busy life. It is an inspiration to hear how you handle the challenges that are thrown your way.

I read something that you posted about a week ago:

"I am SO stressed out with work and school. It is NOT making me feel emotionally healthy or positive...there's this part of me that keeps thinking "it's this stressed out YOU that drove h away the 1st time so BE PERFECT" -- you can guess that that doesn't help much...and it may be just plain inaccurate too....what was it that drove him away? arrgh. double arrgh."

This really struck a nerve with me. Do we really have to be perfect? Maybe that's part of the problem. All my life I have striven to be perfect. I was valedictorian of my high school class, I played at Carnegie Hall 3 times before I was 18, Etc...! Perhaps this pursuit of perfection is partially what drives them away. They feel that they can't live up to our standards and, what's worse, is that when they have A, they really can't face us because we become an even greater reminder of their self-perceived flaws.

Striving for Less perfection=less anxiety

Tonight I will give up being perfect and I will be open, honest, vulnerable and loving.

Thanks for the ideas and do something wonderful for yourself...you deserve it.

Christine