I mentioned sometime ago that I had a friend who wanted to be more than a friend. That after I explained that was just not going to happen anytime soon, that I still loved my H and wanted our M, he seemed to accept this and we continued on.
I can say with no doubt that I have tried very hard to always keep things on a strictly friends terms with us, but the other day, he mentioned that after my divorce in November . . . .
I had to explain that IF I become divorced on November 17th, it didn't mean that I would wake up on November 18th, and be OVER IT. READY TO MOVE ON - - - NOT GOING TO HAPPEN. You can't wash away 20 years like a dirt stain on your hand. Well, evidently H can, but I can't.
My friend became almost angry with me, told me I was a 'quality woman' and deserved so much better. I know that, but unfortunately, no one has told my heart. The heart wants what the heart wants. Period
