I am now starting on my eighth week without communication from my wife. I wrote a letter of apology today that included letting her go and emailed it to her. I have been working on my issues that caused the split (affair and controlling issues) and plan to do LRT since I have emailed her a few times.
I knew the EA affected her when it happened, but it never came up when we had arguments. I believe that there was no OM at the time she left because she dedicated all of her time the last 4 months studying for the NCLEX exam to get her RN. Plus we spent two weeks together on vacation. I believe she left when she felt secure with her nursing career and had $$ in the bank.
I am not sure if there is OM now because of the lack of contact. I would like to know what my WAW is thinking? I was told by the IC that she is afraid to talk with me because she is afraid of coming back for all of the wrong reasons. This statement came form the same IC that she was seeing , so I am not sure if the IC was speaking based on pure knowledge or theory.
I will give LRT a few weeks (3 to 4 months of total separation) then I will probably have to file for divorce. At least that will get her to speak with me. I would really like to understand her thought process at this time.
