OK, so my W just did one of the HINTING things I was referring to before. She just told me that she moved up her follow-up doctor's appointment from Friday to earlier in the week. Based on what she has said and how she has acted in the past, I am almost certain that she wants me to come to the appointment and expects me to offer to go with her. This is her standard MO.

However, she has not (yet?) directly asked me to go with her.

Questions for input/clarification now that there is a concrete example in advance:

1) Would OFFERING to go be perceived as pursuing?

2) Would AGREEING to go if she does eventually ask me directly be perceived as pursuing/supplicating (i.e., "why are you going anywhere with your separated wife other than things that involve the family or that are clear steps on her part towards reconciliation")?

3) Would REFUSING to go, if asked (or not offering to go), be perceived as neglectful/failing in supportive H role?

If I understand Puppy correctly, he would refuse to go even if asked (can you confirm Puppy?). Any explanation with refusal? Too busy?

Last edited by bustorama; 08/30/10 10:47 PM.
Me-53
W-49
D22,D18,D15
T-Since-12/2001
Married-9/2004
She Moved Out-5/28/2010
Piecing start-04/2011
Now-together
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