Think about this for a sec.. your H, who clearly is in a crisis has left you to fend on your own. The tendency would be to be kind to him (once you are over the initial shock of all of this) - you can; however, you need to really protect yourself.
Now, I am not saying go full out and screw the guy. NO - Personally, as hard as it is I follow one basic principal. Do what is fair, right and just. No more. No less.
You really need to sit down and figure out what you will need to support yourself and your kids. How you expect custody issues to work. What you want. In your anger you want to lash out and "make him pay" - this will do no go. It will not have the desired effect. You may feel good for the moment but you will regret your choice later on. That is why I cannot stress enough that now is not the time for you to get revenge. Now is the time for you to sit still, think long and hard about what you want. Then...with God's help...begin to really heal.
Please keep us informed of how things are.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
