Here's a story...of a very sad lady

[mishka422]

I don't know about 'letting' them go be with OW. It's not really about 'letting' them do anything, is it? They've done it...time for you to do what is best for you and let him go stew in his own filth.

Dagny, your fears sound identical to mine and, I imagine, many of us here. Are you sure you didn't read my journal? Those sentences could be verbatim.

Concentrate on turning your fears into rational thoughts and converting them into realisms. On GIMA's thread Coach posted an ABCDE technique that is from a book called "Learned Optimism" It goes like this:

The ABCDE Method of Learned Optimism:
A - Adversity - Define the problem.
B - Belief - Define the belief system that is interpreting that adversity.
C - Consequences - Define the consequences arising from the adversity and the (in)action.
D - Disputation - Argue the core belief and effectively dispute the belief that follow the adversity.
E - Energization - The positive feelings that overcome the negative thoughts after the disputation step.