Hi, Wonka.

Thanks for the post.

I have a couple of questions for clarity.
Originally Posted By: Wonka

Detachment: Not hooking your wagon to another person's actions or inactions. There is some level love in the relationship/friendship. the constant re-winding of the DB/post-bomb review and obsessing about OW/OM ceases completely
Indifference : Truly not caring about the outcome either way and not feeling any "love" toward the person. It can be a very slippery slope for newbies in the DB continuum


I aiming for the detachment, right? My understanding is that though there is a portion (bold) of indifference I am looking for, surely the "no love" is not the intention here.

My understanding was I was aiming at the underlined stuff.

If I'm off target, I'd appreciate the heads up.

Originally Posted By: Wonka

...as evidenced by the "self-righteous" postings and musings about W's evolution along her path


This is the second or third time I've heard "self-righteous". Could you point to some examples as I'm unclear what you are referring to.

And though I am pointing out/musing the "changes' in her behaviour, it is more about talking the situation out and noting the differences. If it's best that I say nothing about it, no problem.

I'll accept whatever she is doing as "what it is" with no expectations or changes on my part. So until she says "He is gone and I'd like to dicuss the R", I'll stop noting/analyzing or posting these things.

Thanks for the pointer.

Originally Posted By: Wonka

You cannot stand around and engage in navel gazing by your lonesome self for much longer, buddy. After a while, it gets pretty stale and boring.

Is this what you are referring to about my musings or my focus on addressing my own issues whilst losing focus on the GAL'ing?

To your last question regarding the GAL'ing, I'm not doing too much of it as I'm working instead on my own issues and false beliefs that affects how I interact with anyone and everyone.

Clearing the house and making it comfortable for me.

I'll try to add more GAL'ing as I'm finding some of my answers are becoming clearer.

PS My October is full. Two trips planned already on weekends I don't have D2.