Coach, I've been getting confused by this. I've read this over and over here and I understand it's the man's place to lead. That's what makes him attractive to a woman, he's being a MAN. But what if a woman is in this situation?
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
Coach, I've been getting confused by this. I've read this over and over here and I understand it's the man's place to lead. That's what makes him attractive to a woman, he's being a MAN. But what if a woman is in this situation?
If a man is on he will lead his woman to where she needs to go. Your job is to partner up with him and be clear on what you want. A man really wants to please you and provide for you. Men are dogs. They love to be praised, petted, fed, play ball and hunt.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
If a man is on he will lead his woman to where she needs to go. Your job is to partner up with him and be clear on what you want. A man really wants to please you and provide for you. Men are dogs. They love to be praised, petted, fed, play ball and hunt.
But what about the attraction? Does that mean that Pin's and mine situations are not similar? His W seems to be saying the exact same thing as my H.
Or is it the same but we need to handle it differently?
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
Pinhead, what your W is saying is approximately the same thing that mine said shortly after bomb date when she was "working" on things in the M and R for 2 months. She wasn't really working. She was existing. She was buying time to plan an exit strategy. She didn't know it. I didn't know it. But ultimately she was buying time because she was scared of me, what I'd do if she left, and what she would do if she left.
Fear is a more powerful emotion than love.
Your wife fears you more than she loves you right now. Fear is killing her attraction to you.
Only letting her go will let her see she has nothing to be afraid of.
How you do that is up to you. I'm not an expert on that by any means.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
Can you imagine what it must be like to hear "You just don't do it for me" or "I like you but not in the way you want me to like you" or "I'm not attracted to you" then not realize that neither your presence nor reminders of how much you love/loved/will love them nor any conversation on how they might "get it back" is going to work.
