Have you shared those feelings - being disrespected, disregarded and ignored - with him, or do you feel safe doing so? Or, if you have already, what was his response?
I haven't. To be quite honest I haven't exactly realized what was happening there until I wrote my earlier post today. I just never analyzed it. All I knew was that I was unhappy with the way he was trying to pretend that nothing happened.
Originally Posted By: FindingMyVoice
That must really hurt. And when it gets to this point, what typically do you do? Do you tell him how much you're hurting? Do you match his anger with anger of your own? Or do you go into withdrawal - retreat and/or back down?
I'm not a hot-headed person by any measure and it takes A LOT to make me retaliate. In fact, in our whole relationship, I only ever lost my temper during a fight once (I did a lot of other bad and/or unproductive things, but didn't try to hurt him back). I try to explain and and to steer conversation onto a logical path which at this point is completely pointless and eventually withdraw. I don't back down though, I'm very stubborn..
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
