The human factor. The wanting to get close to the person who has pushed us away. You said it best- we want what we cannot have!
I am glad to know Robx did this too. At least I won't get my ears boxed on these boards. lol
2x4 time. But with that said I do not regret my move on H last night. It was what it was. I knew it in my heart it wouldn't change anything, but in my gut I felt I had to try to reach my logical thinking H on a physical level which is a large part of his reason for wanting a leg sep. Does that make sense?
Thanks for the input~
Take care~
No 2x4 needed. And TBH what you are doing is working. It really is, but as for how the other night went, if your H "misses" that, then he needs to feel that he misses that. That's why next time (hopefully there is one), you can turn him down in a loving way (Boundary) and make him want it even more. Be hopeful, but don't settle for anything less than him pursuing you. Go to my post and read what CD Bear and I recently chatted about. The squirrel analogy is priceless. I'll link it so you don't have to dig (WAW wants to be Alone)
