When he tries to chat me up later I feel that unresolved anger and hurt. I feel that my feelings are ignored and I'm forced to squash them just to patch things up. I'm trying to find an adjective that would describe how it makes me feel... I guess "hurt" is very general. Ignored, disregarded and disrespected.
Have you shared those feelings - being disrespected, disregarded and ignored - with him, or do you feel safe doing so? Or, if you have already, what was his response?
Originally Posted By: ris
He abandons logical respectful discussion and gets into a mode of disagreeing with every word I say. Gradually gets more and more rude and sarcastic. Just really hurtful, going for things that will do the most damage. I'm not physically afraid of him and he doesn't yell.
That must really hurt. And when it gets to this point, what typically do you do? Do you tell him how much you're hurting? Do you match his anger with anger of your own? Or do you go into withdrawal - retreat and/or back down?
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
