Not sure where to start, or end. WAW?

[john28]

I think that her thread is interesting and good to read but you need to put things into perspective. She is NOT your W and you should not look at her and translate this over to your W's situation. You were commenting about your W and that was ALL mindreading. You will only drive yourself nuts if you're trying to draw unsubstantiated parallels.

Not mindreading. Those are words from my W's mouth. When I've asked her to come home in the past, her words are, "I can't do that. I don't trust you. You haven't changed in the two months that I was at home asking you to. You say you are changing/changed now, I see you are trying and changing, but I can't trust that it will stick. I don't want things to go back the way they were, and I can't trust that they won't right now".

My W has also said, "If you got to a place where you were the man you wanted to be and felt comfortable with that, and I felt comfortable with that, I'd give you the opportunity again."

I posted in that thread:

I'm so incredibly pained, hurt, depressed and devastated that my W left, but I am becoming a better man much quicker than if she would have stayed.

And I know my W knows this, and that's probably one of the main reasons she left. Her reasons now for not coming home are because she can't trust that I will make changes, or the changes I make will not stick.

I don't think that's mindreading.