She doesn't "want" to be married to you, she has a R with another man, and you still want to be married to her. She can't respect or be attracted to a man that would allow that.
I don't want to be married to her under those conditions, no. What I want is a marriage to her with full commitment from her. Dropping the OM forever, fixing the issues we have. I don't want the current state at all - I want it over, via divorce or her waking up. I'd sign the papers today if they were in front of me. I'm not "allowing" it anymore, I just don't have the papers yet.
Originally Posted By: Coach
What happened when the pastor from her church tried to reason with her?
Nothing. No details were offered as it was a confidential discussion, but the pastor implied that he told her everything that would be expected of someone who is in a christian marriage, and tried to explain how she is in complete conflict with that. He wanted to convince her that she has much better odds at happiness with me, and inviting Christ into the marriage, than with what she is doing. He spoke to the OM as well, and I assume the same message was given. But as I replied to him, they are "lost" and beyond any hope save prayer.
I'm not waiting on a hail mary. I'm just saying if it happens, so much the better. But she has from now until I get the papers to do so.
WAW Using God Me-43 W-40 M-14 S-11 S-9 D-7 EABomb 5/09 Separated 12/09
