Shinybear-So many times it takes the WAS longer to end the A or EA, and it winds up like your sitchuation. Most A do end, thankfully. I don't think my H is still in a PA. He says he has not talked to her since he last told me. I go back and forth on the trust thing. I do know that they can outright lie and make it sound as though it's the God's honest truth. I've had it happen to me too mnay time not to know that. I ASLO believe that my H has definately figured out that he does not want to be with this W, but I know he liked to talk to her for some reason. they were friends for a long time befor the A started. She was after him for yrs! Is he talking to her? I have no idea. The only thing now that I can do is act as is I believe what he tells me. It may very well be true. what scare me more is when he starts to distance and the fear that he is content living the life we are now. Me at home and him in his Apt. That way he feels he can stay safe-he has somewhere to run to when things do not go the way he likes them to. He's afraid to commit, and I'm about to hit him in the head with a 2X4! I finally broke down and had it out with him. Right or wrong it was something I had to do. I think it turned out to be positive. He was living in denial and complacency and I shook that up for him. Now, I may have days when I'm sure heis still talking to the OW (like yesterday!) but my main concern is my M and R with my H. If that's right then no one can come between us. We agreed last night that nothing or no one should ever come between us again. That's a start, right?? Rachael
