It seems that many DBers go through various stages as in Kubler-Ross scale (shock, anger, bargaining, grief, acceptance). The distinguishing difference between Kubler-Ross and DBing is that during DBing we do not actually go through these stages as strictly Kubler-Ross per se; instead, we experience varying degrees of detachment and trying to achieve a delicate balance in the detachment dance.
Attachment: Being unnaturally connected to a person where the other person's actions affect you in numerous ways. There is a strong element of emotional connection (anger, "why-me", crying, pity parties...etc) Detachment: Not hooking your wagon to another person's actions or inactions. There is some level love in the relationship/friendship. the constant re-winding of the DB/post-bomb review and obsessing about OW/OM ceases completely Indifference : Truly not caring about the outcome either way and not feeling any "love" toward the person. It can be a very slippery slope for newbies in the DB continuum
Based on recent posts, CD, it seems that you are struggling between the attachment and detachment stages. Not yet fully arrived at the detachment stage as evidenced by the "self-righteous" postings and musings about W's evolution along her path. It is what it is.
You cannot stand around and engage in navel gazing by your lonesome self for much longer, buddy. After a while, it gets pretty stale and boring.
Let's end this on a positive note: How are you doing in terms of GALing?
