On two ends of the world..

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Then after a while (unless I talk to him first) he will start a conversation as if nothing had happened. It drives me nuts! I always give in, but I'm not happy about it, I feel that he should own up to it - not necessarily admit I was right in the argument, but acknowledge and possibly apologize for the way he spoke to me/treated me/started throwing in completely irrelevant issues.

Ouch. Ouch. Ouch. Yes, this was our pattern too. So how are you left feeling after an interaction like that? Can you put some 'feeling' words to it? For example, disreguarded, dismissed, unimportant?

Do you mean after a fight that has gone bad or when he tries to pretend nothing's wrong?
After a fight I feel angry and hurt and I regret opening up because it gives him more ammo to shoot me with. It makes me upset that he says things just to hurt me.

When he tries to chat me up later I feel that unresolved anger and hurt. I feel that my feelings are ignored and I'm forced to squash them just to patch things up. I'm trying to find an adjective that would describe how it makes me feel... I guess "hurt" is very general. Ignored, disregarded and disrespected.

Oh and I did try to raise that issue with him once (possibly at a bad moment). When he started a casual talk, at first I replied, but then I said that I'm still upset over the fight. That just set him off and we fought again...

Yes, this is eerily similar too. But could you expand on 'sets him off', ie what behaviours does he exhibit? Ie Does he yell? Cricitize? Blame? Tell you that you 'shouldn't' feel the way you do? Do you feel you're in harms way? Are you afraid of him at that point?

He abandons logical respectful discussion and gets into a mode of disagreeing with every word I say. Gradually gets more and more rude and sarcastic. Just really hurtful, going for things that will do the most damage. I'm not physically afraid of him and he doesn't yell.