That was a powerful post that Acorn wrote you Sage. I'm not sure it's possible to trust as she says. She says she thought she was hiding her mistrust, but obviously she wasn't. I'm not sure it had any bearing on the outcome of her M. IMHO her husband probably would have done the same thing. How can you MAKE yourself trust? That's like trying to control your thinking. You just can't do it. Thoughts just come. How we react to them is up to us. Do I think my H is being totally honest with me? No. I have no proof of anything, but it does not make any sense that she would stop calling him all of a sudden one day. He was suppose to tell me if there was any contact. If he was honest and told me she called I'd know he was really serious about us and getting back together. I have serious doubts he can quit talking to her because of his past history. What I don't understand is WHY he keeps talking to her and does not want to be with her?? Why is that? He would have divorced me long ago if he really wanted to BE with her. Why does he risk our R by lying about talking to her. I do trust that he is not sleeping with her. The other, well, I just can't believe it right yet. Wev'e been round and round about this and if I find out he's lying to me again about it, I know that trust will never be restored-it will have been too much for too long. I hope my fears are unfounded, but it does not make sense that she'd stop calling him. He flat out lied to me many times about it, so when he tells me he's had no contact with her it does little to comfort me. His actions are all I have to go by and those are sometimes good and sometimes not so good. Who knows??? Rachael
