Here's a story...of a very sad lady

[Dagny-2]

[quote=mishka422] I learned an exercise from my C that helps me answer these sorts of questions (those that are deeply emotional)

1. Meditate on this - Pretend you are your best friend (not yourself as your best friend, really visualize that you are her)

2. She has told you what her H has done, is doing, and how it is hurting her children.

3. You are an outsider to the situation but you have an emotional connection to her. What advice would you give her?
What are your reasons behind the advice. The advice must be specific, not driven by emotion but by common sense and a desire to protect.

4. Follow that advice for yourself.

So the whiny answer, because I love him, is not acceptable?

This makes sense and would be wise to do in these situations. It is amazing that at some points I feel so strong and others, I am back to this weak pile of mush. The calling the boys and having no interest in talking to me, is a killer. We talked every day before the bomb. I’m just so hurt and angry. Angry at the betrayal, angry at myself for being so blind. Angry at myself that I let the fear of moving slow me down, but I did do it, it took me a while to process it, but I moved. I uprooted my life and the kids’ life to be a family, and this is how I’m repaid. Venting, venting, when will the anger fade? And after all this, I still love him. Love surely is blind, isn’t it?