A man in full

[MHL]

I do not believe I am personally through this process as you suggest I might be.

Grit,
I don't think you are through this as in done but certainly you have moved a considerable distance.

I realize how confused your W is and it is more than apparent in her communication with you. I will know more about my sitch with my W by the end of the week. (waiting on a certified letter with the D filing) Actually, I don't think it will happen so I may find myself right there next week also.

At the end of the day I still have hope, although it is a different hope then when I started this.

This is what I am speaking of as far as a change in myself and what I sense as a change in you also. I know you laid down a boundary and I am wondering if that change in "hope" allowed you to do this from a healthy place.

I am still digging on what is going on within me and how I am interpeting it, thus my questions to you. Maybe the questions are more rhetorical in nature and may not demand an answer or response but rather just acknowledgement.

I guess the big question is.....and I know it is different for each of us.......How will I know when it is right to move on? Will there be a significant change? How do you know that this is not that change and you are becoming "stuck"?

Sorry for the hi-jack of sorts, and I will bring it back to you Grit......and I hope I do not offend you my friend, I only pose the question to you as I am asking myself the same question.

You are in this place of standing for your M, and you guys are not divorced.....say this goes on for 6 months even a year longer.....do you think that there will be a "change" in you that will signal to you that you are done "standing" or do you think that it will simply be the expiration of some internal deadline?