Then after a while (unless I talk to him first) he will start a conversation as if nothing had happened. It drives me nuts! I always give in, but I'm not happy about it, I feel that he should own up to it - not necessarily admit I was right in the argument, but acknowledge and possibly apologize for the way he spoke to me/treated me/started throwing in completely irrelevant issues.
Ouch. Ouch. Ouch. Yes, this was our pattern too. So how are you left feeling after an interaction like that? Can you put some 'feeling' words to it? For example, disreguarded, dismissed, unimportant?
Originally Posted By: ris
Oh and I did try to raise that issue with him once (possibly at a bad moment). When he started a casual talk, at first I replied, but then I said that I'm still upset over the fight. That just set him off and we fought again...
Yes, this is eerily similar too. But could you expand on 'sets him off', ie what behaviours does he exhibit? Ie Does he yell? Cricitize? Blame? Tell you that you 'shouldn't' feel the way you do? Do you feel you're in harms way? Are you afraid of him at that point?
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
