1. You move out. 2. You take the kids 3. You don't warn him 4. Check with a lawyer about a sep agreement 5. Offer him access to the kids as a L suggests but no more 6. Find out from the L your EXACT rights and his re access to children... if he doens't have a right to know where they are living you don't tell him etc
IHH I can't stress this enoguh, you cannot fight an affair of this kind with your H and OW controlling your home... You cannot fight that THERE.. You will get VERY ILL... You can wave this off if you want and say you're fine but you WILL GET ILL... I am warning you now... get OUT of there...
You cannot help those kids living under these conditions. -----