Here's a story...of a very sad lady

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(((((Dagny)))))))

That is a good question, but not an easy one to answer. I learned an exercise from my C that helps me answer these sorts of questions (those that are deeply emotional)

1. Meditate on this - Pretend you are your best friend (not yourself as your best friend, really visualize that you are her)

2. She has told you what her H has done, is doing, and how it is hurting her children.

3. You are an outsider to the situation but you have an emotional connection to her. What advice would you give her?
What are your reasons behind the advice. The advice must be specific, not driven by emotion but by common sense and a desire to protect.

4. Follow that advice for yourself.

It takes some time to wrap your head around it because your heart will keep getting in the way but once you do you will be better able to cope with an emotional decision in a rational manner.

Every bit of this hurts your kids but it is ripping you apart. How is that good for your kids? They need you to be their stable, loving, support system. They now understand that H can not be counted on. You don't want them to develop that feeling toward you so be most concerned with your own wellbeing right now and the kids will follow.

Love the idea of a 5K. I walked one (I can't run because of bad knee problems) in May and it was loads of fun. I'm hoping to do another one in October if the stupid Plantar Fasciitis in my right foot ever clears up.