On two ends of the world..

[ris]

Thank you FMV and PH. I do have moments when I feel strong and "I will not let this affect me" and and 5 minutes later something silly on TV has me in tears because it brings up a memory or a future plan we made. I do realize I will eventually be fine, no matter how this ends, but I just really want to stay together.

Now that the weekend is over, it limits our possible communication quite a bit, because when I get up and go to work, it's late afternoon for H. So we have no chance to casually meet on IM, one of us has to actually email the other one.

Last night I read the DR chapter about making up. How we shouldn't try to be right, but just make up as soon as possible. What about the resentment that it brings though?

H has a shorter fuse than me so when we fight it's usually him who makes things ugly. Then after a while (unless I talk to him first) he will start a conversation as if nothing had happened. It drives me nuts! I always give in, but I'm not happy about it, I feel that he should own up to it - not necessarily admit I was right in the argument, but acknowledge and possibly apologize for the way he spoke to me/treated me/started throwing in completely irrelevant issues.

This is what hurts me the most, not that he disagrees, but HOW he does it. It absolutely doesn't make me want to make up with him after a fight. It feels like I agree with that treatment.

Suggestions?