Beyond Depression..but still a losing battle?

[awest1217]

It seems more and more to me that you are always waiting for the next thing to happen (I did the same thing). You don't want to rock the boat until H gets to a counselor, until H gets his surgery, until H gets his own place. All legitimate given H's problems, but what about you and S. What are you going to do while you are waiting? I think you need to come to a resolution on what you want before talking to H. Maybe taking these two weeks of H being busy and really focus on you. If H calls or texts, talk about S, but don't talk about H, talk about you. Be selfish for once. Focus your attention so much on you and what you want or what is happening with you so you can figure out what you need and want and who you are without H.

IT seems more and more to me that H has made you into his friend, and nothing more or maybe friends with benefits for a while, but that is it. He doesn't talk to you as a wife or even a girlfriend. He doesn't want to lose his friend because you are his stability, but he has to find that on his own so he can be an equal partner in your R if you continue.

Sorry it is less hopeful than I usually like to be.