"Hi WH, I need some space from you. Please write _____ for updates on bub until I tell you otherwise. In a similar vein, please let me know when you have a job fully secured. P"
I am starting to think this is the only self respecting way to deal with WH.
I find the "morals" of my situation & what WH has done completely beyond my puny brain.
That's why I am having trouble drawing a clear boundary on dim contact vs NC.
I know for many : a H who walks out on his pregnant wife for OW and moves overseas = Dealbreaker.
But I don't think it is for me.
The story is always more complicated that that, isn't it?
That's what I think, anyhow.
So back to this. Would it be better for ME to have NC with WH? Is it what I want?
Maybe an initial period would help the healing.
It would allow me to assert (to myself), "Nah, this stinks... come back and help me raise the baby or give me the apartment so your baby has a roof over her head"... THEN we'll have something to talk about, but if you can't come to THAT party WH, fine..be on your merry way! To me, that's a chick who stands up for herself cos she knows what she is worth.
p.s. forgot to mention in previous post: WH did not mention anything about the letters (which I asked him to refrain from sending until bub can read herself).
