to think of it, i do believe you can do something about it:

if you can prove w or h has a revolving door of relationships that she brings around the minor children: then document it, go to court and have sole custody of your children and your xw/xh can prove they are of good moral character.

Me 39 H 30
d 18 previous marriage
d 2.5 with H
s 4.5months with H
Seperation Nov09
july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline