The questions you ask, are still telling her she has you in her grip. She will tell you want you want to hear to tighten that grip. STOP asking her questions like that. go back to not believing anything they say, do you really think she is going to tell you whether she has talked to OM? no she wont. So do you ask her these questions to keep reassuring yourself that she will honor her vows? if this does not go the way you want, you are going to be more devastated because you are not making yourself detach more. You did good with the car and keeping your S at the house. I am not a total pr!ck, so I will give you some points when I see you are doing some stuff right.
But the questions you ask as she leaves to me seem desperate, not good for your detaching and letting go. Honoring vows does not mean mediation. I think you need to stop focusing on her statement of honoring the vows. If that were the case, you would be in mc, she would not bring up mediation. Stop engaging in a game that you will not win.
