I have to update this guys - read and wonder...just like I did.
My stbxH picked up the kids to take them to lunch today. While gone he texts me (he just never texts me) and says, "would you like to go bowling with us?" huh? are you kidding me - is this a joke?
I responded thank you for the invite but I was working on something and he replies "the kids said you would never go with us or me for that matter" you must really project hate for me" I reply, I don't hate you mr. luv. He said he didn't like seeing their reaction when he suggested mom come with us.
WTF. He is playing with you or else his guilt is seeping in and he's trying to play the good divorced H for the sake of his guilt and the kids' opinion of him.
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What the heck is this supposed to mean? Why should he even care if I hate him? I thought he was the one who hated me? I mean...he chose to break up our marriage and sleep with someone else - now that is what I consider hate.
I guess he is just testing me to see what I'd say. The kids all feel so hurt and have expressed so much pain in feeling abandoned by him. He obviously is happy in his new life away from the real people that love/loved him. He is breaking each one of us in this household - one at a time with his emotional abuse.
I don't know whether he's testing you but I get the same kinds of things from my H and wonder why do you care? You don't want me, so why do you care what I think, do, my opinion about you, etc? I don't have a good answer for it except that it's not as neat a separation as they thought to break things off- we're still often their primary confidante and the person they look to for input, etc. But it surprises me about your H, as he's not shown any real remorse or anything like that so far. Ignore and detach as much as you can. And take care of you. Keep posting--
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
with his emotional abuse. 
