To the vets out there I am listening and heeding your advice. I will send my W a letter apologizing for the EA and the hurt that it caused her. I attched the letter and would appreciate your critique since I get a little wordy and overly dramatic.
H- I know nothing about affairs as they relate to DB, but I see no one else has replied, so I'll give you a few comments.
Quote:
Dear W,
Your deafening silence is apparent that I wanted to apologize for hurting you so deeply by having this EA. deeply hurt you with my relationship with OW. I was blinded by the fact that I shattered your world by breakingI know that I broke your heart and losing your caused you to lose trust in me and in us. Instead of mending our relationship and making it stronger I made the hurt worse by bringing up her name and allowing my self- doubt to control my emotions and behavior. I wanted to alleviate my guilt by telling you the details, but I wasn't thinking of your feelings, and I apologize for that, too.
W, I apologize for hurting you and for shattering your world. There are no words that can take back the pain that I have caused you. W I value our marriage and our friendship and I am working towards a better me so that I can better value and nurture my relationships.what I truly want is for you to be happy and not hurt anymore, so I'm letting you go.
ME
Now, please don't send this to her without some affair vets weighing in- I have no idea if this is the right thing to say or not.
