Here is an email exchange between ex and myself. I changed the names for privacy. The first is an email that ex sent me that sounds pretty normal.
Hi xxxxx,
just wanted to remind you that i will be picking up the boys for labor day weekend since they were with you for memorial day (see email responded from ). S9 caught a huge bluefish that won a prize saturday and they both caught several porgys (a flounder-like white meat)and said they were the best fish sticks they ever ate! also, xx had another stroke and has availability to get together on wednesday, 9/1/10. i'd like to see him as i never know if its going to be the last time we see eachother, whether he believes it or not. can the boys visit with me earlier, after S6's orientation? also i have "off" week before labor day so if you need me to watch them while you go o school we can arrange that.
My repsponse: Can you take the boys on Wednesday to their orientations? s9's school is having it between 1-2pm where you can go and drop off school supplies and see where your classroom is. s6's school is having it between 2-3pm. I have never been to his school so I don't know the layout. Can you find out the exact time school is let out and where I pick him up in case he is ever a walker? My dad is staying with me this week so he is able to watch them while I go to school. Thanks anyway.
Here is his loony reponse: did you write a letter requesting that they send report cards, calendars, and any other school mailings to both of their parents? i still havent seen their final report cards even after speaking with both their teachers and the principal several times during the year. also send me your school info because i can save several hundred dollars on health insurance that i can use to keep out of jail and stay at work. btw, i can watch the boys to save ur father a 3 hour trip from NJ without a problem. they dont like giving up their rooms and would definately like more time with their dad. also, im not being rude by keeping my distance from you during transfer times. the counseler at the mens group i attend insisted it after she heard about the last incedent where the cops got involved. she told me that u may be the type will remain angry forever and who does not want the proffesional relationship that many divorced people have. she told me the cops use info like the number of women that have been abused or even killed by former spouses and will arrest me without proof...
Ok, who sounds like the one who is trying to keep a profesional relationship here? I am the one that responded professionally and didn't engage in conversation about his friend. BTW, I am friends with his friend on FB and he is doing just fine. Ex makes it sound like he is on his death bed.
And he didn't even respond to me whether he will take the boys to their orientation for me.
He doesn't like when my dad watches my kids. I don't like when his gf watches my kids while he goes to work but do I say anything?
I will not be responding to his stupidness. I think he is so crazy that he actually doesn't see that he has been the bitter one since he walked out the door 4 years ago. Does he think getting into my face and throwing bookbags at me is keeping a professional relationship?
