STBXW is in full stride with a new man. And, I suspect it has been going on a while. Exactly how long, I don't know. So, Puppy, I may have spoken too soon.
Wow. Sorry, friend.
Originally Posted By: givingitmyall
STBXW should be XW by Tuesday. We signed the final settlement agreement on Friday, and the Judge is supposed to enter the divorce decree on Tuesday. What a wild, wild ride it was.
Yep. And you were a model of selflessness and nobleness throughout. And so giving and supportive of others on this board throughout your ordeal.
Originally Posted By: givingitmyall
STBXW is focusing on her new man (who was M'd twice and is, uh, behind on his child support and alimony - they deserve each other)
Not surprised she couldn't find anyone better than you.
Originally Posted By: givingitmyall
I am meeting a new woman for a drink the week after Labor Day. Looking forward to it.
I have from time to time checked your thread, but I just never posted too much at the time.
I do wish you the best, and I hope this is great new start for you.
Best wishes!!!
Thanks LSG. It is a great new start. Learning of STBXW's new relationship put me in a weird place emotionally. Sort of an initial pang of jealousy until I remembered there is nothing about her I find remotely attractive. Sort of an "Oh yeah, why the he!! do I care?"
GIMA- you do sound really good. And I'm glad to hear that you'll feel relief when this (chapter, at least) is over.
What kind of visitation/custody arrangement do you have with W? I'm trying to figure that out now. You have little kids- how did you decide what was best and do you think it's working well?
take care-
A
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
I have the kids every other weekend and one overnight during the week. On the weeks ending with a weekend I do not have them, I get a "dinner", which means I pick them up from school, do homework, dinner, then have them back at their mother's by 7:30.
We alternate holidays.
I'm having to adjust to this new life and balance my job. But, I can handle it!
All of this sounds really positive GIMA. So glad to hear it!!!!
Have a wonderful week and good luck braving those crowds at Disney over the holiday! You couldn't pay me to be there on a holiday.
Thanks. I would not normally go on a holiday weekend, but b/c STBXW would not tell me until the last minute that I could have the kids for their fall break weekend in October, all the rooms with the timeshare with Disney have been booked. Pretty selfish of her.
It will be hot, but we will take a pool break each day during the hottest hours of the afternoon.
Sort of an initial pang of jealousy until I remembered there is nothing about her I find remotely attractive.
Maybe keep one of those basting brushes handy as a reminder.
Become aware of what triggers those negative emotions then dispute them. ABCDE.
Have fun in WDW.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Sort of an initial pang of jealousy until I remembered there is nothing about her I find remotely attractive.
Maybe keep one of those basting brushes handy as a reminder.
Become aware of what triggers those negative emotions then dispute them. ABCDE.
Have fun in WDW.
Cheers
Thanks Coach! Basting brush was tossed in the trash a while back.
And I must have learned something here, b/c when I felt the jealousy, ABCDE is EXACTLY what I did. I believe the trigger is not that she's with someone else. It's my unjustified fear I will not find the right person ever again.
Rationally, I KNOW that's foolish. Emotionally, well, emotions don't have much to do with rational thought, do they?
The kids and I are going to have a great time. And I still have a bunch of timeshare points left, so maybe I go by myself later and play golf, lounge by the pool. If only Disney had a casino and the Bellagio....!!!!
