You have been a source of strength for me and many others since you showed back up on these boards, and I am very, very grateful. I know I am being given quality advice. Go dark, back away, let it be. I have to fight the instinct to FIGHT. Get into a war of words with her that would in the long run serve no purpose and only make him take her side. There is also the little imp inside that wants to make another overture to H.
But, enough is enough. I planted the seed, it took root, and I garnered a response. And while it may not have been the response I would have dreamed of . . . . Oh baby, oh honey, oh sweetie, I've been such a jerk and want to come home so bad . . . It wasn't a negative response, either.
I bow to your wisdom and back away from the computer where H is concerned.
Answer this for me, if anyone can. Why did he email the same msg. yesterday three times within 13 minutes? Did he think I was sitting panting by the computer and poised to respond? Or is he just an idiot?
First idea....IDIOT...or 3 times for emphasis?...He might have been in a bit of an emotional place too and wasn't sure if he sent it, if you received it...maybe he felt if you saw 3 emails from him you might peek at 1?
I wouldn't try and figure that one out if I were you...I think you got a great response...his drunken message may very well be his internal being trying to push through...the result may have stirred him up a bit with OW...thus the emails that she sent...now if she did in fact send them, then this tells you she has access to his email...so be very careful as to what you send out to him...
You are doing great...now enjoy what is left of the weekend...me? I am cleaning like a fool because we are having apartment inspections and with all of our schedules so crazy here there was not much housekeeping going on...so on hands and knees I have been scrubbing, cleaning, and beating myself up with everyone else here to be ready on Tues!!!
Answer this for me, if anyone can. Why did he email the same msg. yesterday three times within 13 minutes? Did he think I was sitting panting by the computer and poised to respond? Or is he just an idiot?
JMO Pun, but it sounds as though someone was trying to convince themselves or were being pressured by another party to try and 'take back' what was put out there.
Sweetie you have the right idea about stepping back now. You got the war started. Time to step way back and let the battle between H and ow wage. I'd bet dollars to donuts that ow is so insecure right now and is probably spewing hateful things about you to H. He must feel tremendous pressure from her. If you stay back eventually H will get tired of it and probably start to defend you. Little girls like her don't play nice when they don't get what they want.
This is all conjecture of course, but them trying to back peddle on what your H emailed to you smacks of ow trying to putty up some major cracks! It may take a while but I can't see the dam holding forever.
It could be as simple as his email wasn't responding so he clicked on send several times! I think it is a good plan to just sit back now and see what happens!!!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
Holy Toledo Punkin - I go out of town for 2 nights and the game changes!!! First of all - Congrats for handling yourself so well! What an amazing turn of events!
I agree with all about going dark - you are keeping your self together! Keep doing the next right thing!
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time
Yes Irish, it's been an H of a weekend for me. Overall, it's been a victory on my part, as I've gotten to see the cracks as never before. H will be too shocked by his own reaction to respond for a while, and OW will be watching his every move.
MLC+Bitch + alcohol = clusterf#ck
I bet she strip searches him before he goes to the bathroom.LOL
Well, it's Monday afternoon, and all's quiet on the Western front. Western Arkansas, that is.
I had a very busy, productive day. Got my nails done at lunch. Gave some more thought to what happened this past weekend, and while it is gratifying to know that H was thinking of me, and wanting to come home, it only proves that he hasn't changed one bit and is still drinking as much as ever.
Did get a good laugh out of yanking OW's chain, though.
