WHY DO WE DO IT?

[navajo]

Wow, Nav!

Nice recovery, IMO.

Where does it stand now?

Honestly, my internal/individual time limit for her to come back has about reached its end.

Please don't confuse THIS^^^^^ and detachment. Your responses to her various attempts (tests!!) show me a detached/let go mindset. You have also removed the OUTCOME from your thinking.
That is all good.
You may NOT be done standing for your M.

This was significant but let's see if someone with more experience has anything to add.

Exchanges never are perfect. Some are just better than others.
Think you did well. Her actions and your responses may have got you back to before the "whatever" comment.

HEY CD! I looked for your thread but it seems to have ended and maybe started a new one? Can you link me to it?

Thanks for the kind words and I assure you that I am not confusing detachment and calling it quits. I just don't know how much more of this I can take before I do move on with my life. I just want her to figure out a way to get along with the children. i am SO SICK of them coming to me telling me they don't want her around any more. It breaks my heart!

Anyhoo, where it stands right now... I just don't know.

I moved her computer desk to the basement and moved another desk into the living room for the kids. She was civil when she called after work to ask me about a bill so I guess only time will tell.

Thanks so much for checking back in on me!

Tom