She is not GIVING you anything. You rightfully have your kids tonight and will take them to school in the AM. Work out a schedule where it is not her "GIVING" you the kids. You are saying I will have the kids on blank and blank and blank days (or you work it out together, but it is not her GIVING them to you like a little crumb on her whims).
Originally Posted By: didthehurt
At what point should i tell her that i'm not leaving? should i just do it over the phone. I feel that if i say this that its just gonna push her over the edge to go and file...
Your house. You stay. You have made it clear to her before that you are not leaving your house (right?). You have expressed your remorse to her about the affair and your willingness to work on the M (right?). No need to repeat any of that. Just live it. She can move out or file if she wishes. She is a free woman. Don't let yourself be controlled from fear of what action she will take. You deserve better in a R.
Originally Posted By: didthehurt
She said she wanted to seperate for a few months to see if she "missed" me not being here. But i see that as just starting the process.
She's free to move out if she wishes. It may very well start a process. One of reconciliation for the two of you or of a healthy new start as single for you. Either outcome is better than where you are now. Don't be afraid, DTH. I'm better than I was 3 months ago when I was going through the same fear you are going through. Don't know R outcome, but I am better.
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