Moving Along ...

[BeingMe]

I phoned my H's OW once, just before I gave up and wanted the D (this was 6 years ago, so my sitch now has changed drastically, yet I find myself in the same sitch, but as a WAW without there being an OW that I know of or care about). She was quick to point out that it wasn't just her to blame, but H too. So, she was quite happy to throw him under the bus .... I told H how "honourable" his soulmate OW was. My response to her was, "don't you think I have already had a lot of talks with H?" IOW, duh, as if I don't know H is to blame too.

The affair partners are very selfish, clingy people. They care little for the families of the LBS or their own families. Some are single, of course, and they are even worse. Makes me wonder if they have no ability to get a single man, so they prey on married men, on their vulnerability because married life is very different. Who among us don't feel a little bit good when someone of the opposite sex says something complementary about us, or pays a little attention to us? Me, for one, but I know it means nothing.

Anyway, know that it has nothing to do with you. Maybe, you had some responsibility in the M, but that is no reason to turn away to seek intimacy outside the M. I sometimes think there are those who just know when it's time to pounce on someone at that point when they are feeling the least resistance within themselves.