I read your dialogues...she is still walking on her path. I would suggest you interject your feelings less and listen more.....I could go through line by line, but I won't. Go read it all again...slowly. At times during conversations like the ones you referenced...I go into what I call "therapy mode". I focus on listening while gently guiding...Something like this;
Wife-My life is so lousy!
You could reply-Those are the choices you made!
Or you could reply-Why do you think that?
Realize (as you and Eric are fine examples) that discovering the answers yourself is much more powerful than someone telling you the answers or pointing out the obvious. She stated herself that she is trying to find herself....be her friend on that journey as much as you are capable. Remember that MLC isn't thought of in weeks or months..
TH-
It is easier to pass judgment than act with understanding and respect. The irony being of course that he without sin should cast the first stone and none came forward.
If the way we do things in MLC isn't for....excellent. I wish you the best of luck on your journey. For me...I find my journey now is much easier without the baggage of the past.
