INTERESTED IN MLC FOR LBS

[AJM]

I suppose now would be the time to ask the question: What is right for Bobby? Better yet, would the real Bobby please step forward?
What I mean by that is that you are not defined by this. You are not controlled by this. You are not being yourself.
I realize why. It's hard. Here you were flying along thinking everything was fine. Trusting in somebody else. Let's face it, it's not fair. Really.
But the advice you are getting points back to one thing and one thing only. Learn to be you, regardless of what is going on. Will it hurt? Hell yeah. Will it suck at times? Yep. Will there be depression and guilt and anxiety and sleepness nights? Yep. But don't let that define you. Understand that's part of the growth process. You will grow even if you didn't intend to. In ways that will be far better than you could have imagined or otherwise dreamt. But you will. You no longer have the choice to not grow.
You do have a choice regarding how much struggle you put up to the changes. When you have reworked you and changed, you will look up and figure out if you even want her to come back. That's possible. I've seen it happen. But do something for yourself Bobby. Sit down and make a list of all the positive things in your life. Even if it's just that you woke up breathing. Every positive thing you can think of. Every day, read that list to yourself when you wake up and when you go to sleep. Try that for the next six weeks. It'll help you see things differently.
Rebuild you. You've been wounded, but it's not the tragedy you may think it is right now. The ending has not yet been written and you can still change the way your own life story unfolds. The only thing that has really changed is that you don't have her supporting you. Was she lately anyway? Not likely. So I see this as a great time to recondition yourself and re-evaluate.

Stop struggling Bobby. Come to the dark sid... wait. Wrong quote. You get the idea though.

Life- be in it!