You made a mistake. You don't need to be beat up for it here - you're already catching a brand of hell in real life.
What level of contact do you and W have? How often do the two of you have to be together for the kids? Did y'all ever go to counseling following the A exposure?
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Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08