I'm thinking I should hold onto my plans, and make her adapt. She will have to entertain herself for two evenings.
Hurrah, CL! Good for you, for not sacrificing your plans. To have sacrificed them would have only fed her insecurities. She needs to see that she will be fine without you for a couple of evenings. You're making wonderful changes! Be wary of those frustrating 'change back' patterns though... she'll very likely continue resisting your trip in efforts to get things back to what she's used to. Hold on to those plans, just like you said!
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
